(From my upcoming book, Your Brigita)
Oooooooh yes... They say that women are made to be beautiful and men to be strong. Syntagma "doesn't
hold water" under all of the criteria of today's positive definitions, but we'll not nitpick,it is a compliment
to a woman hat she is beautiful and to a man that he is strong. No matter for what is not seen in that
sentence, what is should be looked upon as a compliment. Not every compliment that isn't filled with all of
the listed elements, a non-compliment or an insult. By no means! So, the next time you hear it, stick with the
nice thing you heard in it. Because, a woman in her nature is beautiful and a man is strong.
hold water" under all of the criteria of today's positive definitions, but we'll not nitpick,it is a compliment
to a woman hat she is beautiful and to a man that he is strong. No matter for what is not seen in that
sentence, what is should be looked upon as a compliment. Not every compliment that isn't filled with all of
the listed elements, a non-compliment or an insult. By no means! So, the next time you hear it, stick with the
nice thing you heard in it. Because, a woman in her nature is beautiful and a man is strong.
And now, that we have fixed it for you to understand it as a compliment, we can begin with criticism.
Just kidding. But we can.
Once it was a compliment for women to hear that they are beautiful, and not just a compliment but a
sufficient compliment. A woman liked to hear about her beauty, attractiveness, gentleness, passion, on how
he can not live without her, her lips, her body and gentle voice, and a man liked to hear how she feels safe next
to him, how she loves his strong muscles and that he got into a fight for her....all until one moment...when a
woman rose up and yelled-
I AM NOT JUST A DOLL BOY, I HAVE A BRAIN! DO YOU THINK YOU CAN HAVE ME WHENEVER
YOU WANT AND THAT YOU CAN USE ME JUST FOR SEX AND YOU STILL THINK YOU WILL GET IT
EVEN THOUGH YOU ARE TURNING YOUR HEAD AWAY WHILE I AM TELLING YOU THIS! AND THE
MAN SAID, IF THAT IS THE CASE FORGET ABOUT MY MUSCLES AND THAT PASTA! I ALSO
WANT TO BE BEAUTIFUL AND GROOMED. WHERE IS THAT CREAM FOR FACE AND FOR HANDS?!
I HAVE CHOPPED WOOD LONG ENOUGH, I HAVE TO TAKE CARE OF MY HANDS. At that moment
everything changed! An entire new history began. A new epoch.
And nothing was the same any more. People say, the myth goes, that there are still a few men wondering
around the world for women who are still only dolls. For those obedient. For those gentle. For those who
give away their bodies without asking for anything in return and speak only what he wants to hear.
Legend says that they have been seen somewhere but are slowly being lost because they are too tired
from searching.
Legend also talks about there being some women who are still searching for strong, macho men who
bang their fists on tables.
Legend says. But reality doesn't trust it and doesn't fulfil it's desire. That man and that woman no longer
see each other even in legends. Noo, noo...
But, if there was a possibility for men to give up their modern way of life, their creams, make up, fancy clothes,
caring for healthy nourishment and exercise for themselves and their bodies, and to return to a hygiene without
those creams and eat pancetta and greasy food all the time, and to wear the same shirt all week, do you think
they would accept that? Metaphorically speaking, would they accept, what do you think?Do you think that a modern man would agree to merry a woman chose for him by his parents and that, with all
that is available to him today, he would sacrifice himself for his parents wish for a piece of land from that
woman he doesn't even like? Till when and for how long? Do you think he would accept to work all day
something he doesn't want so he can provide for his family? Do you think he would give up on facebook and
tweeting? Instagram?
DO YOU THINK THAT MODERN MEN WOULD CHANGE THEIR WAY OF LIFE FOR THAT OF THEIR
GRANDFATHERS BUT NOT IN THEIR TIME BUT IN THE PRESENT?Do you think they would be happy being like that in this modern time?
Do you think that today's men would cast aside their caring for themselves and their reputations, and mutual
respect with their partners and return to, in stead of that, to physical confrontations? Do you think that a modern
man wants to spend his life in jail for beating a woman instead of living nicely with her or divorcing her?
Do you think that women would give up on being both beautiful and smart and successful in order to cook
lunches and diners for her man?
Would a modern woman give up facebook, tweeter and instagram?Would she allow for her present freedom to be substituted for obedience in a "relationship prison"?
Just kidding. But we can.
Once it was a compliment for women to hear that they are beautiful, and not just a compliment but a
sufficient compliment. A woman liked to hear about her beauty, attractiveness, gentleness, passion, on how
he can not live without her, her lips, her body and gentle voice, and a man liked to hear how she feels safe next
to him, how she loves his strong muscles and that he got into a fight for her....all until one moment...when a
woman rose up and yelled-
I AM NOT JUST A DOLL BOY, I HAVE A BRAIN! DO YOU THINK YOU CAN HAVE ME WHENEVER
YOU WANT AND THAT YOU CAN USE ME JUST FOR SEX AND YOU STILL THINK YOU WILL GET IT
EVEN THOUGH YOU ARE TURNING YOUR HEAD AWAY WHILE I AM TELLING YOU THIS! AND THE
MAN SAID, IF THAT IS THE CASE FORGET ABOUT MY MUSCLES AND THAT PASTA! I ALSO
WANT TO BE BEAUTIFUL AND GROOMED. WHERE IS THAT CREAM FOR FACE AND FOR HANDS?!
I HAVE CHOPPED WOOD LONG ENOUGH, I HAVE TO TAKE CARE OF MY HANDS. At that moment
everything changed! An entire new history began. A new epoch.
And nothing was the same any more. People say, the myth goes, that there are still a few men wondering
around the world for women who are still only dolls. For those obedient. For those gentle. For those who
give away their bodies without asking for anything in return and speak only what he wants to hear.
Legend says that they have been seen somewhere but are slowly being lost because they are too tired
from searching.
Legend also talks about there being some women who are still searching for strong, macho men who
bang their fists on tables.
Legend says. But reality doesn't trust it and doesn't fulfil it's desire. That man and that woman no longer
see each other even in legends. Noo, noo...
But, if there was a possibility for men to give up their modern way of life, their creams, make up, fancy clothes,
caring for healthy nourishment and exercise for themselves and their bodies, and to return to a hygiene without
those creams and eat pancetta and greasy food all the time, and to wear the same shirt all week, do you think
they would accept that? Metaphorically speaking, would they accept, what do you think?Do you think that a modern man would agree to merry a woman chose for him by his parents and that, with all
that is available to him today, he would sacrifice himself for his parents wish for a piece of land from that
woman he doesn't even like? Till when and for how long? Do you think he would accept to work all day
something he doesn't want so he can provide for his family? Do you think he would give up on facebook and
tweeting? Instagram?
DO YOU THINK THAT MODERN MEN WOULD CHANGE THEIR WAY OF LIFE FOR THAT OF THEIR
GRANDFATHERS BUT NOT IN THEIR TIME BUT IN THE PRESENT?Do you think they would be happy being like that in this modern time?
Do you think that today's men would cast aside their caring for themselves and their reputations, and mutual
respect with their partners and return to, in stead of that, to physical confrontations? Do you think that a modern
man wants to spend his life in jail for beating a woman instead of living nicely with her or divorcing her?
Do you think that women would give up on being both beautiful and smart and successful in order to cook
lunches and diners for her man?
Would a modern woman give up facebook, tweeter and instagram?Would she allow for her present freedom to be substituted for obedience in a "relationship prison"?
Do you think that a woman today would give up her career and all of the wellness treatments in order to wash
dishes and clothes with her hands? ....
Noo.
The present has brought us many beautiful things but a lot of people have found themselves in between
the old and the new patterns and they don't know how to fit in with all of this. Some couples who until
recently had agreed with each other "perfectly", now have problems because one likes the appeals of the
modern, while the other resists them. All somehow blame modern technology. It is sure that everything
can be used one way or another. It is like that with everything. "Some frogs jump in the water faster, some
slower, but all frogs eventually do jump in." Is it the same with people? You get the metaphore.
IT'S NOT ABOUT TECHNOLOGY, SEEMS TO ME IT IS BECAUSE YESTERDAY EVRYTHING THAT WE
DIDN'T KNOW FULLY WHAT IT REALLY IS WAS IDEALISED AND PRAISED.
People had only a partial view of their love partners, and their parents, family, friends, colleagues,
acquaintances...while they had no knowledge about some things. They trusted peoples words.
PEOPLE WERE NOT MORE HONEST BEFORE THE ADVENT OF MODERN TECHNOLOGY,
I DARE TO SAY. NOR MORE LOYAL. NOR BETTER. THEY WERE JUST MORE UNDISCOVERED.
Everything people wanted to keep a secret, they could have. Everything that was far from the eyes was
trusted based on the words. Today the eye can see everything. Absolutely everything. You even know
things about others you do not want to know.
I know people who are resisting everything so much, everything that the society is today, and they
would most likely prefer to seclude themselves in their environment far away from modern wonders, and
spend the rest of their lives there in peace. I also know people who enjoy everything that exists today.
We are all different.
There are many problems today, flaws, imperfections...what ever you call it...but a lot of those critical, up until
recently unseen and undisclosed things in people's lives, are now seen in the light of day. Or in other words, the
light of modern wonders. And that is why some relationships brake, and are replaced, more easily. Not
because people have more choices (remember the above mentioned frogs; if you are a frog you are a frog
(laughter)), but because a lot less is hidden from the eyes and ears, a lot less is left to the belief in
perfection and idyll.
It is my opinion that people today are in general more faithful then they were a few decades ago.
Because people today come together of their own free will and for their own interests or love. And that
story is kept by reality as long there is love or benefit. People today take more seriously the shortness of
their lives and the value of their time and give in a lot less to other people imposing on them their will
and pressures. People today take more seriously and respect more their own effort and stakes they put
into things.
You'll see a few women and men today, willingly marrying and not getting something good in return for it and
because of not getting it not respecting and note keeping that marriage.
So today it is not in to get married just for the sake of getting married and having children just because that is
expected.
Today you know that monogamy is somewhat of a sacrifice and that if you are making that sacrifice you
expect it to be appreciated or you move on. Even if marriages are made just for the sake of marriage, they do not remain hidden from the modern world and
break very easily because...life is short and you don't want to throw it away. You don't have enough time or
money to finance 5 wives (or husbands) beside your family, on the side. Nooo. A man or a woman knows
how much they can afford to themselves. Because there are other priorities.
Today sex isn't so unaffordable to spend everything on it although it might be said that everything
revolves around it. But people are investing more in making themselves sexy and not paying for sex.
Today a "sponsor" will make his "play-toy" popular but will also want to be popular himself.
With that, and cause of that, everyone knows that there are cosmetics. Clothes. Technology. Travelling. Real
estate. Vehicles.
Although you will hear that people used to be able to preserve their marriage till the end of their lives, to
deep age, and you thought that behind that was some great love that doesn't exist today...do you really
believe in that?
Marriages have been saved, OK there are those that were saved cause of love, but let's be realistic, a
large part were save because that was dictated by society, it was a sign of proper life and prestige,
culture and good upbringing, and because of a lack of information about their partners and a great
obedience of one side towards the other. Today, when you throw away societies coercion, obtain
information and remove forceful obedience...what do you get? FREEDOM OF CHOICE. And that is that.
Today when everything is given to you on a plate, you know and expect a return for your sacrifice in favor of
some relationship. If both partners aren't trying hard, the relationship brakes. And people say that is bad. But
maybe it isn't. Better two happy then two unhappy people.
It's nice to have security in a partner, marriage, family, but today that security no longer exists, at least
not forever. Today time and circumstances teach a person how to rely on himself/herself, how to find
security in himself/herself. Even today you will see either really happy or really unhappy couples, there are
no third kind who are in the middle because that's how it's supposed to be. Today it doesn't have to be that
way. Today the accent is on the individual. And the society is being tailored to the individual more and more.
Modern technology isn't to be blamed for ones disappointment in someone. The truth is just more
exposed, nothing else. And the truth is something people often don't want to hear, do they? It's easier to
believe that something is good and toil, then convince yourself it is not and turn your life on it's head.
But maybe that on it's head isn't really upside down. Maybe life in a lie is upside down.
dishes and clothes with her hands? ....
Noo.
The present has brought us many beautiful things but a lot of people have found themselves in between
the old and the new patterns and they don't know how to fit in with all of this. Some couples who until
recently had agreed with each other "perfectly", now have problems because one likes the appeals of the
modern, while the other resists them. All somehow blame modern technology. It is sure that everything
can be used one way or another. It is like that with everything. "Some frogs jump in the water faster, some
slower, but all frogs eventually do jump in." Is it the same with people? You get the metaphore.
IT'S NOT ABOUT TECHNOLOGY, SEEMS TO ME IT IS BECAUSE YESTERDAY EVRYTHING THAT WE
DIDN'T KNOW FULLY WHAT IT REALLY IS WAS IDEALISED AND PRAISED.
People had only a partial view of their love partners, and their parents, family, friends, colleagues,
acquaintances...while they had no knowledge about some things. They trusted peoples words.
PEOPLE WERE NOT MORE HONEST BEFORE THE ADVENT OF MODERN TECHNOLOGY,
I DARE TO SAY. NOR MORE LOYAL. NOR BETTER. THEY WERE JUST MORE UNDISCOVERED.
Everything people wanted to keep a secret, they could have. Everything that was far from the eyes was
trusted based on the words. Today the eye can see everything. Absolutely everything. You even know
things about others you do not want to know.
I know people who are resisting everything so much, everything that the society is today, and they
would most likely prefer to seclude themselves in their environment far away from modern wonders, and
spend the rest of their lives there in peace. I also know people who enjoy everything that exists today.
We are all different.
There are many problems today, flaws, imperfections...what ever you call it...but a lot of those critical, up until
recently unseen and undisclosed things in people's lives, are now seen in the light of day. Or in other words, the
light of modern wonders. And that is why some relationships brake, and are replaced, more easily. Not
because people have more choices (remember the above mentioned frogs; if you are a frog you are a frog
(laughter)), but because a lot less is hidden from the eyes and ears, a lot less is left to the belief in
perfection and idyll.
It is my opinion that people today are in general more faithful then they were a few decades ago.
Because people today come together of their own free will and for their own interests or love. And that
story is kept by reality as long there is love or benefit. People today take more seriously the shortness of
their lives and the value of their time and give in a lot less to other people imposing on them their will
and pressures. People today take more seriously and respect more their own effort and stakes they put
into things.
You'll see a few women and men today, willingly marrying and not getting something good in return for it and
because of not getting it not respecting and note keeping that marriage.
So today it is not in to get married just for the sake of getting married and having children just because that is
expected.
Today you know that monogamy is somewhat of a sacrifice and that if you are making that sacrifice you
expect it to be appreciated or you move on. Even if marriages are made just for the sake of marriage, they do not remain hidden from the modern world and
break very easily because...life is short and you don't want to throw it away. You don't have enough time or
money to finance 5 wives (or husbands) beside your family, on the side. Nooo. A man or a woman knows
how much they can afford to themselves. Because there are other priorities.
Today sex isn't so unaffordable to spend everything on it although it might be said that everything
revolves around it. But people are investing more in making themselves sexy and not paying for sex.
Today a "sponsor" will make his "play-toy" popular but will also want to be popular himself.
With that, and cause of that, everyone knows that there are cosmetics. Clothes. Technology. Travelling. Real
estate. Vehicles.
Although you will hear that people used to be able to preserve their marriage till the end of their lives, to
deep age, and you thought that behind that was some great love that doesn't exist today...do you really
believe in that?
Marriages have been saved, OK there are those that were saved cause of love, but let's be realistic, a
large part were save because that was dictated by society, it was a sign of proper life and prestige,
culture and good upbringing, and because of a lack of information about their partners and a great
obedience of one side towards the other. Today, when you throw away societies coercion, obtain
information and remove forceful obedience...what do you get? FREEDOM OF CHOICE. And that is that.
Today when everything is given to you on a plate, you know and expect a return for your sacrifice in favor of
some relationship. If both partners aren't trying hard, the relationship brakes. And people say that is bad. But
maybe it isn't. Better two happy then two unhappy people.
It's nice to have security in a partner, marriage, family, but today that security no longer exists, at least
not forever. Today time and circumstances teach a person how to rely on himself/herself, how to find
security in himself/herself. Even today you will see either really happy or really unhappy couples, there are
no third kind who are in the middle because that's how it's supposed to be. Today it doesn't have to be that
way. Today the accent is on the individual. And the society is being tailored to the individual more and more.
Modern technology isn't to be blamed for ones disappointment in someone. The truth is just more
exposed, nothing else. And the truth is something people often don't want to hear, do they? It's easier to
believe that something is good and toil, then convince yourself it is not and turn your life on it's head.
But maybe that on it's head isn't really upside down. Maybe life in a lie is upside down.
In any case, be as it might, some people are very nostalgic for those times, times when you could "bury
your head in the sand". People are nostalgic for the security that came out of it. People are also maybe
tired of all the running around and struggling. But that only means that people's perspectives are
changing and that the way of life has to change as well.
Today, no matter how long you search for a woman who will listen to you and do what you want, a woman who
chirps to you and doesn't stand up to you...it's not that you can't find her...however...she will not give to you
what your grandmother gave to your grandfather. Because today sadness and dissatisfaction isn't hidden. And
in the end you will be responsible and judged for making her endure such a life and making it that way. Also,
today you won't find and get a satisfied man in someone who will be neglected by himself for you and the
children. It doesn't work that way today. That part doesn't fit the modern jigsaw of society. That's for the better,
trust me. Today you can really choose to be happy. Why would you then choose to be unhappy and
dissatisfied?
The present and modern age isn't bad, it's only that the "less good qualities" of people and the old ways
of society have come to light. It's time of change. Of people. Families. Society.
LOVE AND KISS EACH OTHER!
...kisses to all, Your Brigita!
your head in the sand". People are nostalgic for the security that came out of it. People are also maybe
tired of all the running around and struggling. But that only means that people's perspectives are
changing and that the way of life has to change as well.
Today, no matter how long you search for a woman who will listen to you and do what you want, a woman who
chirps to you and doesn't stand up to you...it's not that you can't find her...however...she will not give to you
what your grandmother gave to your grandfather. Because today sadness and dissatisfaction isn't hidden. And
in the end you will be responsible and judged for making her endure such a life and making it that way. Also,
today you won't find and get a satisfied man in someone who will be neglected by himself for you and the
children. It doesn't work that way today. That part doesn't fit the modern jigsaw of society. That's for the better,
trust me. Today you can really choose to be happy. Why would you then choose to be unhappy and
dissatisfied?
The present and modern age isn't bad, it's only that the "less good qualities" of people and the old ways
of society have come to light. It's time of change. Of people. Families. Society.
LOVE AND KISS EACH OTHER!
...kisses to all, Your Brigita!
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